this morning a total stranger came and picked up baby J to take her to the cps office to see her parents again for the first time in almost 3 weeks. she was over an hour late but I get that we live far out here and also I hear that I should be grateful that there is a case aide to help with the transporting, otherwise it would be up to us to drive her. just makes me sad how confused she must be:(
about a half an hour into the visit the cps worker called and said that the parents are being difficult and they want to know why she has a diaper rash and why we aren't using A&D and why does she look so lethargic? ughhh really??? I have heard this is common, the parents want to feel like they have some sort of control. which even though its from their choices this is happening, I can not EVEN imagine what they are feeling. I did explain I left a letter to the parents and some pictures of baby J in the diaper bag that they must not have seen. this seem to help a lot to diffuse the parents and calm them down some.
when baby J was dropped off several hours later she was off for a bit, just looking around and could not get her to smile. she did seem tired but warmed up shortly after being here again. they sent a few toys for her and they just REEK of cigarettes and she smelled of it too, so it was a nice thought just may need to air the toys out some. this is all part of it. just so interesting dealing with types of people and situations that never would come across our paths without doing foster care. hoping we can be light and encouragement to all involved even when they are difficult and not very easy to love:/
ON A GOOD NOTE: we had a great easter as a family with baby J. she seems to be adjusting to our family great, I've noticed less fits (hopefully that doesn't change now that we are confusing her) but it was a great weekend! we found out that she LOVES candy:)
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