love the unlovable

I'm not referring to baby J, she is very lovable, considering how she was taken from home and the only parents and family she has known, just as she starts to get adjusted here, she now spends so much time in the car on Tuesdays and Thursdays being transported to and  from her parents visits, with all that she is going through, she is so easy to love. Her parents on the other hand I am having a hard time loving. I can not even imagine what they are going through having their children taken and I am trying to be sensitive, but today she sent a nasty note saying how mad she is that baby J has an ear infection and why didn't I invite them to the doctor appointment. ? She also told the case worker I waited too long to take her to the doctor and shouldn't have met up with J's baby brother at the park, etc. So they are continuing to criticize almost everything we do :( And its just so hard to not let it get to me, get angry, even a little arrogant, like REALLY you are the ones that had your children removed, my kids are DOING JUST FINE. (soooo bad and wrong I know!) So tomorrow we are suppose to have our 15  minute phone call and I am dreading it. This is one aspect I have to say I did not expect, worrying so much about what the birth parents are going to think, if they are going to be mad, having unpleasant conversations with them, etc. Maybe it won't be as bad as I think but I am going to start praying about it now, and hope I say the right thing and stand up for myself. The case worker did say that if the call gets bad then to just disconnect and no longer do the calls. Regardless of how they have been I still want to root for them, I want them to be able to the parents they want to be, that their kids deserve, I want them to be a family again.

But I say to you, Love your enemies, bless them that curse you, do good to them that hate you, and pray for them which spitefully use you, and persecute you; Matthew 5:44